February 20, 2012 10:21:40 AM EST
I am beginning to think your post has helped me to think about how I feel about the LBGT community. Maybe that's why I didn't think too much about Roland Martin's comments.
Hope Hope Heal--I agree with you when you say that the Black community supports homophobia. I'm not gay and I rarely think about the LBGT community. But I stopped going to church because of the minister seemed focused on the fact that homosexuals are going to hell. Since I don't understand homosexuality, I got annoyed. I considered thse fiery sermons to be intolerant and unChristian-like. I never felt I was in the position to judge others. I don't want to know how it feels to be gay any more than I want to know how it feels to be white.
Once, I was at an arts program, when I overheard this guy telling his friend that he had just met someone and he wanted to get married and have a few kids. My back was turned, but my ears automatically pricked up. His main concern was that many people in his family had health issues and he was afraid of passing on the cancers, strokes, and diabetes that his family members were dealing with. His friend asked him what he was going to do. He said that he and his new love were going to find a really nice girl who was in good health who was willing to let them use THEIR sperm for artificial insemination. I was shocked. I almost turned around to say, "That's nasty!"
I turned to look at them from the corner of y eye and I saw two nice-looking guys. One guy was looking really worried and sad. His friend was looking sympathetic. He was nodding his head when he said, "You can have a family, man. Nobody wants to be alone." If I were talking to my girl friends, I might have said something like that. The conversation seemed strange to me, but I just decided that God knew and understood better than I ever could. Letting go of judgment is so liberating!
Usually, I am so focused on the problems with our schools, young people, careers and the changing landscape of our society, that I don't invest too much emotionality about things I don't understand.
Love Hope Heal is right--gay people are the least of our problems.